“She’s shy.” That’s what people told me when I was young. A lot. Often I heard that phrase when being introduced to someone new, or if people would talk to me, or if I was in a new situation. She’s shy. If you hear something often enough, you’ll believe it to be truth…even if it’s not.
I was probably 20-years-old before I realized that I wasn’t shy. I was at a retreat and one of the speakers told me, “Shyness is self-centeredness.” Well, she didn’t say it to me personally, but it was for me. A light bulb went on in my head. What if someone else needs to hear what I have to say? What if my life and my experiences and my insight will actually help another human being? After all, fellow humans, we’re in this together. We might as well learn from each other and with each other. That being said, I still believe I’m an introvert at heart. It’s how I process. I’m perfectly fine being alone and processing in my head or by writing or maybe chewing on something with one or two people. That’s my favorite, really. Do you see the difference? Processing inwardly doesn’t make you shy. Keeping something to yourself that might be beneficial to others is my definition of shy.
I have learned to be more outgoing. People that have only known me in the last 20 years or less, don’t believe that I have ever been shy, or introverted for that matter. I might tend to be a little silly, sarcastic, and goofy. Maybe I’ve learned some confidence along the way so that I don’t care as much about what others think of me. I don’t mean that in a flippant or dismissive way. If someone that loves me and knows me and cares about me tells me I’m messing up in a big way and it’s hurtful, then I value their opinion and need to do some introspection. But if someone tells me they don’t like my hair, then that’s their style opinion and I move on.
I tell you all this to encourage you to be who you are made to be. Be confident. Maybe you’re not sure yet. Maybe you know who you are, but your surroundings don’t reflect it. I’m here to help with that. I help you make your surroundings reflect who you are.
Make it a beautiful day, friends.
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